A New Lens for Understanding Children’s Behavior

A new lens for understanding children's behavior

When I was a teacher, at times, kids would refuse to do their classwork. I would try everything I could think of to talk them into doing it. When they wouldn’t, I’d think of them as defiant and just trying to get their own way.

Or if it’s your child not listening instead of your student, you might be thinking that they’re being disrespectful to you.

I’d feel helpless and powerless against this child’s will.

These old thoughts would pop in my mind: you need to set boundaries, be consistent and teach them that not listening has consequences. You can’t let them get away with this behavior or they’ll keep doing it… forever.

If you were a teacher, parent or professional in this situation, how would you respond?

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Creating a Sense of Belonging for Children

Creating a Sense of Belonging for Children

Around the time I turned 40, I decided to join a triathlon club.

To give you some perspective on this decision, my parents still tell the story of when, as a young child, I ran into a pool, sank to the bottom and sat there until my frantic Mom pulled me out.

While, I’m guessing there’s a bit of hyperbole in this story, one thing is true: I am NOT a natural born swimmer.

But I was determined. I bought a neon yellow swim cap so the boats could see me in the water. Every Friday morning at 6am, my swim buddy Christine and I, practiced in the Intracoastal waterway along Wrightsville Beach in North Carolina.

Now, I’m not sure if you’ve ever had the opportunity to swim a distance in the ocean. If you have, then you know that I couldn’t see anything. At all! It was dark and sometimes things touched me. I was not okay with this!  In my mind every bump was a shark–but again I was determined.

My mantra became “Safety Bubble.”

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The Difference that Collaboration Can Make for Kids

Kids and Collaboration? The Difference is Clear

Do you remember Sydney in the article about using Curiosity as a way to engage with a child?

When you as a parent, educator, or professional are trying to help Sydney, it can be challenging to know what to do or where to look for solutions.

One of the biggest things I’ve found that holds people back in life is isolation. If you are attempting to get yourself unstuck on your own, you don’t know how to move forward and everything stops.

If you’re having a struggle with your child, your student or your client and you’re uncertain of what to do, where do you begin?

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