Why Your Discipline Strategy Isn’t Working

New Discipline Strategy

It’s fair to say that you want your kids or the kids you work with to make good choices and do what they’re supposed to do, right?

But sometimes nothing seems to stop their bad choices.

When you think of disciplining your child or student, what result is it having?  

Take a moment to think about your beliefs around the purpose of discipline and the actions these beliefs lead you to choose.

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Four Ways to Respond to Back Talk & Sidestep Power Struggles

4 ways to respond to back talk and sidestep power struggles

How do you respond to kid’s back talk?

Inside the Emotion Guide Collective, our peer support community, one of our members shared a genius way she responds to her child’s back talk and it got me thinking more about the connection between back talk and power struggles.

When we view back talk as rude, disrespectful, and argumentative behavior that is unacceptable and must be stopped, we create an environment for power struggles to thrive.

Here are four other ways to think about back talk and sidestep power struggles:

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Helping Our Kids Be Confidently Uncertain

Confident with Uncertainty

 

The start of a new school year is here. This transition naturally creates a sense of uncertainty and sometimes anxiety for our kiddos (and maybe for you, too).

How do we help our children, students, and clients navigate uncertainty? 

A normal tendency is to try to remove any elements of uncertainty. Take them to back to school night. Introduce them to their teacher. Buy them school supplies so they are prepared. Make sure they know how to find their desk. Discuss which of their friends are in their new class.

These are good options and we want our kids to feel as secure as possible when they start their new school year or really when they try anything new at all.

But there’s more to it…

What can change when we focus on instilling in our children that they can handle feeling uncertain instead of focusing on removing the uncertainty?

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