She came into my office, a brave 9 year old, and with a quiet defeated voice shared with me that even though she used her coping skills, sometimes she still worried about bad guys.
My answer to her:
YES!
I still worry about bad guys sometimes too especially if I hear a strange noise at night. It’s normal.
You’re human and I’m human. Having all our emotions including fear and worry is part of being a person. It’s okay to still worry about bad guys.
The goal isn’t for you to never worry again. I know you might want that since worry can feel very uncomfortable and sometimes even painful.
But the real goal is for you to know what to do when you feel worried so it doesn’t stop you from doing fun things, things you want to do, like going to sleepovers, or feeling safe on field trips, or sleeping in your own bed.
Does that make sense?
Relief spread across her face as she nodded and smiled.
This is the HIDDEN DANGER OF COPING SKILLS —
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