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Helping Our Kids Be Confidently Uncertain

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Confident with Uncertainty

 

The start of a new school year is here. This transition naturally creates a sense of uncertainty and sometimes anxiety for our kiddos (and maybe for you, too).

How do we help our children, students, and clients navigate uncertainty? 

A normal tendency is to try to remove any elements of uncertainty. Take them to back to school night. Introduce them to their teacher. Buy them school supplies so they are prepared. Make sure they know how to find their desk. Discuss which of their friends are in their new class.

These are good options and we want our kids to feel as secure as possible when they start their new school year or really when they try anything new at all.

But there’s more to it…

What can change when we focus on instilling in our children that they can handle feeling uncertain instead of focusing on removing the uncertainty?

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The Emotion Guide Journey Map (Part One)

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We exist to nurture those entrusted with tending to children’s emotions on their journey to become confident emotion guides. Together, we create a world where children grow up loving themselves.  

What is the Emotion Guide™ Journey and why is it important?

The Emotion Guide™ Journey is the path we take to guide children through their emotions.

If you’re a parent, you may use the path when your child is experiencing bedtime resistance or school anxiety. As they get older you may access the path again for setting healthy limits with technology.

If you’re a professional, you may use the path continuously for different challenges depending on the situation of your student or client.

The goal of this map is to help you:

  • Avoid overwhelm so you spend your precious energy and time on the things that truly make a difference.
  • See your progress through the touchpoints provided so you don’t get stuck in what’s not working.
  • Know where to focus your energy so you don’t exhaust your resources and you do what actually works.

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The Emotion Guide Journey Map (Part Two)

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Let’s talk about the six stages of the Emotion Guide Journey. If you haven’t read about what this is and why it’s important for you and the kids in your life, click here to read part one.

Emotion Guide Journey Map

 

Build Your Base

 

You’ll know you’re in this stage if:

  • You’re thinking, “I’ve done everything I can think of and nothing is working. What do I do now?”
  • It’s normal to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, and worried about your growing person.
  • It feels like being stuck in a rut where you keep doing the same things you’ve always done because, who knows, maybe if you do it again then it will work.
  • You might worry that learning a new way will take too much time and energy, but you know that you want your kids to be connected, happy, and resilient.
  • You feel like you don’t fully understand the root of what’s going on or how to help.
  • You’re actively looking for information about your situation or child.

Does this sound familiar?

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