One Key to Understand Your Child’s Emotional Meltdowns and Help Them Grow

It’s Sunday night at your house. There are tears, meltdowns, “I can’t sleeps”, maybe stomachaches or headaches and an emphatic… “I don’t want to go to school tomorrow.” Your child can’t give you any logical reason for their feelings, but they’re so uncomfortable that their emotions are totally running the show.

You feel like you’re always walking on egg shells. You’re a puppet and your child is the puppet master.  Your entire family is constantly responding to the intense whims of their feelings.

And you’re so, so exhausted with it all.

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One Mindfulness Tool That Will Change Your Parenting

One Mindfulness Tool that will change your parenting

Imagine you and your family are in a small boat traveling down a river. Let’s call it the River of Calm.

You’re having a pretty nice day when all of a sudden the water current speeds up and you’re struggling to steer the boat.

SWISH… SWIRL… BUMP!

Before you know it, you’re beached on one of the riverbanks.

While the River of Calm is every parent’s love, we could easily call the riverbanks their nemeses.

On the right side of the river, is the BANK OF CHAOS where meltdowns live.

On the left side, is the BANK OF RIGIDITY where power struggles hang out.

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Who’s at Your Control Panel?

An Emotional Awareness Activity inspired by Disney/Pixar’s Inside Out

Yes, I was there on opening night for Disney/Pixar’s movie Inside Out!

As a child counselor and parent guide, Inside Out for me could be likened to your child’s love for Minecraft or Taylor Swift. A movie that teaches kids about their emotions, memory and the inner workings of the brain… I’m in!

The movie centers on 11-year-old Riley who moves with her family from Minnesota to San Francisco. We get to follow along as her emotions, Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear and Disgust work at her brain’s control panel to keep her safe and healthy as she navigates all the challenging changes in her life.

One of the movie’s core messages is that ALL of our emotions are important and necessary. One emotion cannot exist to the exclusion of the others and differing emotions often co-exist within one life experience.

Our emotional system is designed to protect us and send us messages about the world around us. It indicates how things are going in our life.

While, I agree some emotions are more comfortable to feel, there are no good emotions or bad emotions. There is simply learning to hear their messages.

What Are Our Emotions Saying?

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